Long time no write! Below is actually a “guest post” from my amazing wife, Andrea Godbold, filling in those who are interested in learning a little bit more about the foster to adopt journey we embarked on earlier this year. It is a short read, but it is a great update on the stretching process that God has begun to work out in us. Hope you enjoy it, and Happy Thanksgiving!
As some of you may know, we have started the process of fostering to adopt. If we haven’t told you, don’t worry; we’ve forgotten to tell a lot of ppl. It’s not b/c we’re not excited, we are, but it’s not like announcing a pregnancy. I learned this when I was in Pottery Barn Kids the other day w/ my mom, looking at baby girl cribbing and a salesperson asked if they could help me. “No, I’m not pregnant, I’m adopting. Well, I mean, I’m trying to become a foster parent, and then adopt.” Cue confused sales girl. Poor girl just wanted to congratulate me, but had no idea how to go about doing it
The story starts w/ a difficult pregnancy. Since we had Liam, we had been going back and forth on what God had for us in the children department. Fast forward to end of May, we moved back to our hometown and we learn about an awesome organization called Arrow. What was even more encouraging was a lot of families at our new church, Tomball Bible Church, foster and foster-to-adopt. Our church even has a support group – The Orphan Care Network. Evan and I felt confirmation from the Lord soon after we moved that this was the way for us. By that I mean we are going through the process to be certified as foster parents w/ the hope to adopt our foster child. We looked up Arrow, and decided we would go to an informational class in September. We assumed we would have to wait to truly go through the process after we bought a home, but learned that we could go through all the classes and turn in our background checks. At this point we’re hoping we’ll be done w/ our classes by January, and we’re also hoping to turn our paper work in that month. The last few classes we need aren’t available in December b/c of the holidays. From what we understand, the paper work, home study, and certification will take a few months. Obviously there’s always the – what if we don’t get certified fear. We’re new to this, and are just taking this step-by-step.
We’ve learned a lot from the classes and talking to other foster families and our heart has only grown for our future foster child(ren). At this point we’ve decided we would like to foster/adopt a baby girl from newborn to one year old. We originally had the age to three years old, but we really love the baby stage, and decided we wanted to go through that again. There’s something magical about that first year. We’re open to adopting siblings, but definitely just planning for one at this point. We know the process is a roller coaster, and that the road to adopting will be a tough one. As we walk through the “preparation” stage, we’ve learned that these children have no choice in the matter, and the least we can do is provide a loving home, whether we have the privilege to adopt or not. Court dates will be challenging, family visitations just as difficult, and then of course we will have to navigate Liam’s emotions. We’re not sure how to explain it all to him yet, but we’re sure God will provide the right words when it’s time. Right now we’re just telling Liam he’s going to have a sister. He of course has no idea what this means. At this point we look to families that have been down this road already b/c they have a lot more experience and wisdom than we do, and of course blogs and books
While we could say a lot more on the subject, I think that cover the gist. Please pray for us as we walk this path. Pray for our family, children in the system, and children that are going to be separated from their parents and put into a stranger’s home. Being separated from ones parents is a BIG deal at any age. Thank you for your prayers.
So, I would reiterate the need for prayer for us as we continue through this process. Our hearts continue to be changed and built up as God prepares us for this undertaking. It is only by His power and example that we can bring anything to the table for this child.
“Religion that is pure and undefiled before God, the Father, is this: to visit orphans and widows in their affliction, and to keep oneself unstained from the world.” James 1:27